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Debate...
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Dialogue...
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is oppositional: two sides oppose each other and attempt to prove each
other wrong.
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is collaborative: two sides or more sides work together towards common
understanding.
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has winning as the goal.
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has finding common ground as the goal.
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lets one side listen to the other side in order to find flaws and to
counter its arguments.
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lets one side listen to the other side in order to understand.
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defends assumptions as the truth.
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reveals assumptions for reevaluation.
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causes critique of the other position.
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causes introspection of one's own position.
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defends one's own positions as the best solution and excludes other
solutions.
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opens the possibility of reaching a better solution than any of the
original solutions.
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creates a closed minded-attitude, a determination to be right.
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creates an open-minded attitude, an openness to being wrong and an
openness to change.
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prompts a search for glaring differences
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prompts a search for basic agreements.
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involves a countering of the other position without focusing on feelings
or relationship and often belittles or deprecates the other person.
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involves a real concern for the other person and does not seek to
alienate or offend.
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